Our First Swinger Experience In The Lifestyle
Published April 23th, 2008
Hi, this is Josie and Mark and this is our first experience!
Okay so we are finally starting to go to a few parties and get to know people. We have been chatting with people every night. However, we have still not taken the huge leap and actually had sex yet with other people. Our profile on different sites says that we are interested in only girl-girl. We got the sitter, bought the outfits, so now we are ready. Tonight’s the night!!!
We go out to dinner and have a few drinks to calm our nerves. We drive to the party, park and just sit in the car. Mark says that he does not want to go in. I told him, ‘Let’s just sit in the car and see the other couples who are going in.’ I know that Mark’s heart is beating really fast, since he told me he was nervous. I am nervous as well, but I do not want Mark to know that. You would think that we would not be nervous since we have been to a couple other parties, but it seems that we still get butterflies in our stomachs. Maybe it’s the thought that we are entering into a party with other swingers. Or that we are doing something against the norm. Mark and I have talked about this topic for a while now. We both firmly believe that it is not normal to be monogamous. We all have wants and needs. Why can’t we fulfill those? That is why we love the Lifestyle. There is something for everyone out there.
Mark always thinks that I am never scared to do anything. However, tonight is different for me. So, I act like I am the confident one and say ‘Let’s go in’. Mark says ‘What if there are just older couples in there?’ I told him that ‘We should just go in and check it out and see who is at the party’. ‘If there are a lot of older couples, then we will just leave’. After a little more persuasion, I get out of the car and he follows my lead. We get in line to check in. We are checking out all of the couples by now. We were really surprised that we thought most of the couples were hot. We were excited to get into the party and talk to some of them. However, we were told that since we were new we would have to go to a Newbie Orientation.
After the orientation, we immediately went to the bar to get a drink. We met a couple at the bar, they seemed really nice. We noticed that they had a few tattoos, which is not a problem for us. We are very open-minded. They told us that the tattoos meant Slave and Master. They described to us a room in their house that is an S & M room. Now, I already said that we are open-minded about everything in life; however, this was a shocker to us. We still have not even done anything in the Lifestyle. But we decided that that we would roll with it. They were nice people to talk to and we knew we didn’t have to go back to their house if we didn’t want to. While Mark was in the bathroom, the female half of the couple, told me that her other half was bi. Now, like I said before this is not a problem for us, we are glad that there is something for everyone in this. However, Mark is just not bi and we did not want to play that way. So once Mark got back we politely went to the bar and hung out by ourselves.
We were standing at the bar and noticed a couple that was checking in. We thought that we knew them through chat. Once they got in, Mark went up and said hi to Beth and John. We were excited to see someone we recognized from pictures on a profile. We knew that they loved going to Vegas and so did we, so we had an instant connection. We all got drinks and found a table in the back corner by the bar. Once we sat down, Beth and John recognized another couple, Steve and Cathy, at the bar and invited them over to sit down. At this time, Mark and I were still very nervous since everyone knew each other and we didn’t. However, everyone made us feel like part of the group. We were not left out of any conversation. After a few more drinks, everyone was dancing on the dance floor and having fun.
Once we got back from dancing, everyone sat down next to the person that they were dancing with. Until this point, Mark and I have been sitting next to each other. In fact, we have never even separated in a group of people before. Look, I know that this does not seem like a big deal, but at the time it was a huge deal for us. Then after a few hours of talking and dancing, I went to the bathroom. Mark met me outside the bathroom and told me that John asked him if we wanted to do a swap with 2 other couples. Mark said ‘I know that we talked about doing just girl-girl in the beginning, what do you think?’ I told him ‘Let’s just do it. We get along really well with both couples, Why not jump in and do full swap right away.’
So we get up to the room and have another drink. I just sat on the bed, not sure what to do. Finally, Steve came over to me and started kissing me. Mark was with Beth and then John and Cathy were together. Everything turned out well, except that Steve had issues with keeping it hard. Mark kept looking at me to see if I was enjoying myself with Steve. Finally, we all stopped and talked for a little bit and then we noticed that it was already 2am. Mark and I had to get home to relieve our sitter. We got dressed and left their room.
In the hallway, we both looked at each other and jumped up and down with excitement. Mark asked me if I was alright with everything. He was worried that I would not have a good time. He was concerned that I would be mad at him for being with another person other than me. I told him that I was fine, more than fine, great. I was so excited that we finally did it. We were officially swingers!!!
Thank you for taking the time to read this collection of experiences my wife and I have had in the lifestyle. Our names are Mark and Josie. We have been in the Lifestyle for 4 years. Our goal with this was not to write a bunch of erotic swinger stories with exaggerated details and tall tales, but to write the REAL truth about our experiences. We try to talk about everything - the good and the bad. We love the lifestyle and it has made us closer than ever - but getting where we are today with it was not always an easy ride. There’s a lot that goes into having sex with those that you are not married to. Our hope is to give the non-swinger a feel for this interesting world and what REALLY goes on. This is a collection of different experiences we have had. Some are good - some not so good. Again, the goal here is to give the reader an insight into the mind of a swinging couple. We hope you enjoy.